
by Eche Sicancu
In Iowa (and some states), April is a great month because it suggests the cold season’s demise.
It’s also an open secret that winter season can be deeply depressing: the loneliness, freezing temperatures, icy roads, and fiery snow storms. With no family, no money and no sex, life can get pretty delusional for most international students. (especially those who are single)
So it is not surprising that spring-and subsequently summer is looked forward to with bated breath. But one bad thing about warm weather is that it tends to pave way for unrestrained body exposure. This is simply objectionable.
Let’s face it: while there are certain things in life that must be kept “short and sweet” a lady’s shorts is not one of them.
You may disagree but I think few things in this world are more tempting than a woman’s exposed body. Even if your mind doesn’t want to see, your eyes will look. Some people think they can get away with it by stealing quick glances back and forth. But the truth of the matter is that girls notice when you look elsewhere.
Do you know how my high school science teacher Mr. Bentum would have put it? “All female bodies are composed of tiny molecular magnets which have the force of pulling adjacent male pupils inadvertently towards them.”
There’s no denying that females are entitled to their own sense of fashion. In this era of unlimited freedoms, some people call it freedom of dressing. Not bad. What about freedom of watching? Looking doesn’t really hurt, does it? To me, our ladies must take as good as they give or better still, as good as they reveal.
The truth is that in many countries people see dressing in short clothes as a sign of modernity, sophistication or westernization. In Ghana and other developing countries for instance wearing skimpy clothes has become the rites de passage to maturity. “She’s not a small girl” they will say.
However by revealing too much in their dressing, some students hold the rest of the community to a standard of discipline that they fall short of themselves. I mean, most guys would prefer not to look but with an assortment of thigh-baring shorts, tank tops, exposed cleavages and low slung jeans, this is becoming increasingly difficult. Part of the problem may be due to the fact that the word sexy has become synonymous to lose dressing.
So the question is: can’t people dress fashionably without necessarily baring?
To be sure, I'm not saying people should go around dressed in long, frumpy, billowing dresses as if they were timeless advocates of the Virgin Guadalupe. However, it is simply unfair to be unnecessarily plagued with the greatest of temptations that a man or woman could ever deal with - the sexual impulse.
One more question: should the universities impose a dress code in order to address this trend? I think so. If the university has the right to impose a code of conduct, it also has the right to impose a code of dressing. Indeed some schools such as Central University in Ghana and University of Lagos in Nigeria have already done this.
One of the most brilliant arguments I have heard in support of a university dress code is a suggestion from a discussant who said, once enrolled in a university, we must subject ourselves to a trade-off that includes depriving ourselves of our freedoms for the benefit of the larger group. It is the modern-day concept of Rousseau's Social Contract. Those who object can withdraw if such impositions seem onerous.
Indeed, the arguments for decent dressing should transcend the sexy, fashionable or so-called sophisticated concepts. Rather it must stretch to one that encompasses gracefulness and rigid self-control by all sides. In the end, the culture of exaggerated dressing and the crime of discreet glances can be solved with moderation and self discipline.
This is a very serious issue.Do most of our ladies still know the word decency?They can dress attractively without being provocative.Sometimes it is just an eyesore.they should remember that most dudes would not settle for someone like that for life.As for imposing a dress code,it can't be too early.Some guys still walk about campuses with their boxer shorts exposed.Maybe a dress is long overdue.
ReplyDeletei had never thought of the concept of "freedom of watching" but it sounds interesting!
ReplyDelete...i just love to see these undergrad chics walking around half naked...it's a pretty sight...
ReplyDeleteone word, lust. men will lust after her and probably think of her as an object and want to rape her. sorry, ladies. but, perverts out there will want to just take you down right there and just do it with you unless you all stop it now! you may never understand a man's eyes, but as a male, i do.
ReplyDeleteMy views on this can be neatly summarized by the words of writer's final paragraph:
ReplyDelete"Indeed, the arguments for decent dressing...must stretch to one that encompasses gracefulness and rigid self-control 'by all sides'. In the end, the culture of exaggerated dressing and the crime of discreet glances can be solved with moderation and self discipline."
In the American and most "developed societies", the ladies have the right to dress the way the want, go to your room anytime, lay on your bed and even provoke you to any point, "but it is rape if you are not permitted" no matter how provoked. If you fall victim, you become a pervert who has lost his sense of self control and judgement. In Africa civility and respect still exist and so Universities can impose dress codes. It will be interesting to see the response of the wider society on this. I like the statement that "they should remember that most dudes would not settle for someone like that for life." There is something wrong in the judgement of the individuals and "developed society". In developing Africa you would call them "harlots", I have always prayed we never develop to the point of tolerating nudity in the name of fashion.
ReplyDeleteSome call it indecency other call it freedom of expression..!
ReplyDeleteI believe each individual(man and woman) have the right to dress in a manner they are okay with. As long as no one is hurt and the freedom or right of individual in kept intact.
ReplyDeleteAttempting to regulate it would simply not work. Who would define the level of descency? are we going to measure the length of the skirt or specify the percentage of flesh an individual is allowed to expose! In the end we would end up wasting resources on non-essentials.
The way to go is to plead/nudge or something similar.If this fails so be it. If we prescribe the mode of dresses on campus what next?. After uni are we going to enact laws in parliament to continue to keep these girls descent?
@ Selali, Sunday, Tagoe, Nii & all, thanks for your comments and for bringing different perspectives to this issue. I believe three reasons that guide people's sense of dressing are religion, culture and one's conscience. Beyond that people tend to make the argument for cultural relativism. Sunday elaborates more on the cultural angle while Tagoe calls it freedom of expression. I believe Nii's argument can be placed within the same thinking since he assumes quite rightly that laws to regulate people's dressing are unenforceable within the larger community. However I believe society is governed not by culture- specific laws but by a common objective moral standard which transcends every culture. It’s hard to pin point it but as I said a sense of moderation and self –discipline should guide our actions and inaction including what we wear.
ReplyDeleteguys, just like the right to choose what to eat, drink or indeed what to study in school, I believe people have the right to dress the way they want to. A lot of factors go into the way people dress....cultural influences, comfort, religion etc..
ReplyDeleteI agree that a sense of moderation in the way everyone dresses would help but c'mon...can we actually enforce a rule on "what not to wear"???
the argument about getting raped because of the way one is dressed is neither here nor there. Peverts will be peverts regardless of how frumpy one is dressed.
look when you see it...admire it if you wish...be disgusted by it or just simply walk away and shake your head like we do in Ghana!!!
Thanks Zelda...it's so nice to have a lady comment on this issue. yeah i agree that there is surely no justification for rape. but why provide the incentive in the first place. Nevertheless i must admit that a lot of guys will be incredibly enthused by the fact you subscribe to the view that men are free to watch/admire one of nature's most beautiful creations as much as they can afford. This to me is a very welcome opinion.
ReplyDeletei guess in a larger societal context it may be difficult to regulate or control what women wear but looking at it from the sense of university communities, i believe university authorities,especially the private ones should be able to state very specifically how they expect their students to be dressed when on their campuses.
ReplyDeletelike Eche said the Central university here in Ghana has a strict directive on what they expect their students to wear to lectures and whiles on campus and i`l just want to add that its not only with the Central university, Valley View and Regent university are others that readily come to mind. For those who do not know, Central and Valley View were set up by religious institutioins and i feel they are doing the right thing by asking their students to practice what they preach from pulpits.
for us in legon,University of Ghana, it is now an anomaly to find a female student with every part covered. some one would think they are on a flesh-baring contest.like a friend said recently,their dressing leaves little to the imagination.
Thanks for the insights Selorm. you should update us more on current trends in Legon. Man those hall weeks and beach trips were just something else...a photo slide will do maybe...(wink, wink)anyways those were interesting comments.
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